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as an adult I've lived in a number of
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places but as far as I'm concerned I've
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only ever had one real home my home is
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my family my home is Barack but here's
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the thing our marriage has never been
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perfectly 50 to 50. one of us is always
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needing more we're giving more we have
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to be willing to listen to each other
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honestly and without defensiveness only
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then can we evolve together
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over the years a lot of young people
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have asked me about marriage and my
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response usually goes something like
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you have to prepare yourself for long
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stretches of Discord and discomfort you
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have to learn how to make real
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compromises in the way you've lived as
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glamorizing a relationship while your
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dating will lead you straight to
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difficulty once you're married
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you can't paper over problems when
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you're living with someone day in and
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so you've got to ask yourself
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what are you trying to get out of this
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have you truly thought it through
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do you want a wedding or do you want a
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those are two very different things
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together you are answering the question
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who are we and who do we want to be
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now I want to hear from you what advice
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would you share about marriage or
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relationships hashtag the light we carry
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